I often wonder why it seems so difficult to be enthusiastic in life for most people. I cross a lot of men and women looking sad at work, at the shopping center, in their car at the traffic lights, or when they walk on the pavement. So where is hidden optimism? By the way, where does optimism come from?
These two questions obsessed me for a while before I consider optimism as a state of mind. It was easy to understand then, that the way of thinking positively helps to reduce the impact of unpleasant circumstances and issues (the half-full glass vs the half-empty glass). After having spent many years studying different kinds of philosophy, I’ve found out that the way you look at things around changes your vision of everything for the rest of your life. Our inside wealth increases, hope comes back again.
Well, I prefer to see the half-full glass, because it’s a way easier to live. But I must recognize I’m helped by a good nature: I’m born optimist. So I don’t have to make a big effort to see things under their best angle (even though my life has been hard sometimes). I know, it’s not fair in the case you’re not born optimistic. However, having spoken with a lot of people before I create my blog, I understood that it wasn’t a matter of philosophy, nor of a generous nature, but rather of a way of understanding life. Remember that:
1/ You know yourself better than anyone could do.
2/ You must trust your intuition: it’s your best guide.
3/ Your past has made the person you’re now.
4/ You’re the only person who can decide to change your state of mind, so your way of thinking.
5/ You have to learn by yourself, at your own pace.
I guess it’s very frustrating not to find here more help which could allow you to go ahead. Fortunately, there are some tips which will bring you the way to start on the path of optimism:
- You must have some dreams, because first, they show you what you could do in the future, secondly, they give you a breath of hope in your busy life.
- Each single day, sort your tasks into priorities or urgency, because the earlier you manage them, the more your mind is clear to do what you want.
- Meet enthusiastic people, or at least spend some time with some positive people: their way to see the world, life and risks will make you in a good mood to do the same.
- Start your day by being grateful: whatever you live, even things are turning bad, you’re on Earth to learn, so to make you evolve. Gratefulness makes miracles happen.
- Celebrate your victories. I know it sounds absurd, but each time you win a war, you have to etch it on your memory; You succeeded something that will make you move forward. Celebrations rise your vibe, so your energy is higher, and you feel confident.
- Dress you well each single day. I mean, the best as possible, in the way to find you beautiful. You hardly imagine how much it’s important to feel good about yourself: it’s a magnet to meet others, to make any relationships go easy. The way you feel beautiful attracts and turns on people who find you irresistible.
- Do one thing per a day that makes you happy. Life is not just a hard game to play only. Happiness can bring you the way to feel alive, even a handful of seconds.
- Think as if the best was always possible: that turns your state of mind in positive. So you’ll be amazed to notice you’re more enthusiastic day after day, and good things will really happen.
- Sleep at night: positive people have a balance-sheet between day and night. They don’t feel punished when it’s time to go to bed, because they pertinently know it’s a way to reload themselves.
When you consider things with that new vision (the half full glass), they seem to be less strong and destructive (in a word, your mind tries to optimize what can be). Your awareness rises, so erases doubts and fears. You become stronger, you trust yourself, and you consider things under a stronger angle. Finally, lots of people could live with a positive state of mind if they were more confident. But their mind is invaded by so much hard information, so many images of violence, that they just mistakenly believe suffering is the standard.
So say STOP! Don’t let it all destroy you. Be enthusiastic. You’ll feel comfortable and hopeful.
Enjoy your half-full glass!
Love,
Jane