Spring’s coming over soon, so I guess some of you are dreaming about the future person of their life. This is a question of the season, I think… It comes back each year at the same time, so people seem to look around as if it was a matter of surviving! But I do like that, because they feel cool, open and they smile very often.
Do you dream of a date? That’s wonderful! But before, remember a thing or two when you meet someone new:
1/Be self-confident, whoever you are. Don’t think about your weight, wrinkles, clothes, hair… Be proud of all that makes you, it’s irresistible to others: you show you’re not perfect, so you deal with. Take it easy: act as if you were with someone you met in your childhood (so you’re confident).
2/Be true: you’re going to attract someone with your deep you, not a fake version of yourself. Don’t try to seduce, it’s the worst thing to do!
3/Think about who you are, so what are your values. Do you want someone to share them with? If so, you’re on the good path!
4/Smile: this is very important, because the message you send is “I’m cool and charming”. Who can resist to that?
5/Talk about things around you at the place you stand: it’s easier to get a conversation with someone you don’t know yet, when subjects are all around you both.
When you ask a question, hear the answer: it means you’re interested in what this person says, so it will be easier for you to continue the chat around their answers.
Be positive in any way: don’t criticize anybody around, don’t talk about negative things, about your last lover nor bad experiences of your life. You must be fresh and easy going!
6/Look at this person in their eyes: firstly, because it’s a politeness, secondly because you show them how much you’re interested in what they say. But mostly it teaches you a lot of things about this person: the facial expressions can talk more than a speech. You can know when they come from heart or no (in that case, the words are different than expressions).
7/Be yourself. I mean, the wonderful person you are, simple, natural, and open-minded. Everyone wants to find out in another person something new, something never found before in anybody. You too, don’t you? So it’s easier to see it when you’re true.
8/Dress up with nice and light colors: they arise your vibe, so for people around you too. It’s very attractive and it shows your sunny side!
9/Respect the silences: it’s not a run to know who’s talking the most! Like in music, silences are made to breathe, to slow down, to look at the other one… well, to let closeness setting between you both.
10/Cut your phone! It’s really unpleasant to hear a ring at a time you’re getting acquainted!
11/Pay attention of your attitudes: don’t gnaw your nails, don’t roll a lock of hair, don’t intentionally show your legs (for you, ladies), so don’t be rough, nor anxious, nor looking around as if you were waiting for a top model (for you, gentlemen). I said you must act as if you were chatting with an old friend, but it doesn’t mean you have to forget elementary lessons of good upbringing!
12/Set the time to leave. A good first encounter has to be funny, pleasant, and light. The more you stay, the more you know about each other. So the magic is very important to go further in your relationship (I mean a second date would be fine, wouldn’t it?). So let the other one on their hunger to know you more.
I’d like to add how much it’s important to get acquainted before the first kiss, and of course, the first night. As often as possible, meet this person in different places, with different people around, to know them better. Take your time: you have to know many details about him (or her), before going further. Are you seduced? What do you like in this person?
If ever you don’t feel at ease at the second date, don’t insist. It’s a waste of time. So, please, respect your body, your soul, who you are: you don’t have to go to bed with someone if you don’t feel it. There is someone made for you, somewhere. Keep it in mind.
Well, the main thing is your emotions: feel them, so listen to what your little voice inside inspires you. It’s never wrong. Trust it.
Love,
Jane