There is something very weird around fashion: people seem to live in a different world than mine, one I could sum up by “out fashion, no living”. All that buzz around fashion shows, creators, designers, top models, fashionistas, bloggers, etc., makes me very perplexed: is fashion an art devolved to some initiated only?
So I don’t want to compare two such different worlds, mine and their’s, but I must admit how it is pleasant to see beautiful ladies very well dressed. I add that I feel completely in my place without a garment that costs at least three months of my wages, and I’m perfectly at ease with my pride despite the fact I never bought a pair of Jimmy Choo’s stilettos. I feel fine without possessing any of all that luxury, and almost very proud of me when I can buy something pretty and cheap. I’m like many other single women around the world: I must do with my own wage, so by myself. I know what fits me and don’t, I buy only what I haven’t got in my wardrobe, so my favourite blue jean is a pair out of age, with many holes!
But I confess I’m fashionable… so what?
When I think about it, I realize that it’s a part of me. As far as I remember, I’ve always paid attention to my way of dressing. I’m born pretty. Not in the way to show people how awesome I can be, but just to feel fine. I need to please myself. When I dress to go to work, I feel the colors and the clothes of my wardrobe first: do I feel the blue, or the white, a dress, or a skirt, etc.? I need to be comfortable with the idea that a garment must make me beautiful and not the contrary: I’m not a thing, I’m a human being.
Lots of women would like to get more money to buy very chic clothes, so bags and accessories to go with. They can’t, because everything is very expensive, and luxury is made for those who are rich only. But it’s easy to be pretty with a few bucks, some taste and a bit of imagination. Let’s see:
1/ Mix something old you do like with a new accessory: it adds a touch of a new glam
2/ Buy exactly the garment made for your body: size, color, fit
3/ Find out a dressmaker (or ask a neighbor, a friend, an aunt, who sews), to make an old garment a new one. Negotiate the price because there is a chance you’ll ask her to do it again with some other clothes.
4/ Make-up every morning: the foundation is the main thing, it illuminates your face. Add a lip gloss or a red lipstick and you look prettier at once!
5/ Smile! This is not your clothes people see at first, but you! A smiling woman is always lovely and charming, even she’s dressed with simple clothes.
Each woman gets her own style. It depends on who you are: slim, curvaceous, tall or small, old or young. It needs a bit of objective good sense: do you really want to dress as if you were twenty years old when you’re 50′? The message you give to others in that case is “I’m getting old, but I can’t accept it” which shows that you don’t feel fine and you’re not self-confident. This is the worst thing to do. All the women who look younger than their age don’t get necessarily expensive clothes, nor botox injections. They just know what is made for them, without seeking anything else than being themselves. They try to be positive in their mind, they smile, and take everything easy. They tend to be the center of their own life, so they spend some time a week for them. They don’t waste their energy to look like what they were at 20′ or 30′. So men find them extremely sexy and seducing: self-confidence is the best passport for love!
So ladies, what do you think when you’re watching a man who desperately wants to look like he was much younger? You think: “he’s pathetic”, don’t you? So what about a man who is self-confident, at ease with his age? He doesn’t want to be someone else, he’s just fine how he is. So you notice his charming smile, the color of his eyes, or the way he’s dressed, don’t you?
Clothes, make-up, body building, or an expensive car is just made to create an attractive version of yourself that doesn’t show who you really are. Whoever you are, a man or a woman, the main thing is the look you’ve got, that comes out of you: the way you walk, your attitudes, your gestures, the way you smile, the sound of your voice, the way you talk… That’s your true character.
The best you are dressed even, you must not forget to be who you are. The best version of yourself lives inside you, in your heart. Finally, elegance is certainly to be, not to look like, nor to get.
Love,
Jane