When time has come to review your life and you now understand it brought its pack of illusions, disillusionments, good love stories, bad ones, dreams and nightmares, I really think you’re ready for the great, the unique, the awesome and big love. Yes, indeed!
But things have changed since the last time you were in love. Maybe since your youth, your 20’s, 30’s, 50’s… well, since the last experience of love. I’ve said “experience of love”, my dear co creating happiness shakers, because I don’t want to talk about what you abs must not share with anyone (read again my post “Your secret will be safe with me”), particularly with your mother, if you see what I mean! I’d like to talk about the last time you were in love, you thought it was forever, you were sure your lover was the best one.
But for any reason (we, all of us prefer not to think back these reasons, aren’t we?) this love failed, taking far off your expectations, dreams and future. You probably pretend you are ok now, that your life is fine, that you’ve got plenty of friends and money, a good job and so you travel a lot. I say : you’re right. But you lie. You lie to yourself. You’re not as fine as you pretend because you miss someone, this one who could share all your expectations, dreams and future. Everything you do and makes you happy gives you a bitter taste in the mouth, as if your happiness wasn’t abs complete. You tell your best friends you’ve got no place for someone to love, that you’re perfectly happy as you are, being the captain of your boat. You’ve chosen what your life is made of, who comes in, stays in, but there’s no place (I could add no time!) for a big love.
You are single. You don’t want anyone to hurt you again and break your heart, even life has made you stronger and braver than ever! And here comes a bad news: love hurts whatever happens. It’s due to the nobility of the feelings : you love the other one so much that you know you love him (or her) more than yourself. It’s a wonderful pain that leads your soul to the Divine !
You have been a great lover in the past, however, trusting others, being self-confident about your sex appeal, your seduction. You must say now that getting older, one or two big sufferings later, you have shut the door of your heart. How old are you? 35, 45, 55, 65, 75? What’s the matter? You’ve learnt so much and you are so ready to love now, to be loved again, that it would be stupid not to move on and consider the fact that your retirement of the best love is over!
Start to look at yourself in the mirror: what do you see? I’m going to tell you : a person who knows so much things about life that you could write a book! Wouldn’t you like to share all of that with someone? To show her (or him) all you’ve been taught from life? Don’t you think you could bring this person a lot of your experience of life? Are you sure it wouldn’t be the same for this person about you? Because there is a big probability she (or he) could have done lots of experiences too, and would be ready to share them as well.
Be as you are: a nice person. “Don’t change your hair for me”, like in Chet Baker’s song* which means you are who you are, so you’ll be loved thanks to that. Be proud of you. And grateful. Nevertheless, you could prepare yourself for the big love, just to feel comfortable with this new objective: cut your hair, lose some weight, go back to sport, quit smoking, give up with alcohol, change your wardrobe, clean your car, and smile as if this person were in your life yet. So now, you’re ready to let someone come into your heart. Congrats! Become again a great seducer, and remember: this person is going to love you as you are. That’s the deal!
Love,
Jane
*My funny Valentine (Rodgers & Hart)